workflow: host-guarantee the agent-start/agent-end pairing on every stop path

agent-end was worker-authored only, so a start already forwarded to
observers lost its paired end whenever the worker could no longer speak
- the grace force-settle terminating a wedged script, or an unexpected
worker death - stranding progress consumers with agents that never
finish (ds-review-bot finding on #233).

The host now keeps a ledger of forwarded starts and funnels every
agent-end through one gate: worker-reported ends pair (and clear) their
entry, and both termination paths drain the remainder as synthesized
'cancelled' ends BEFORE the run settles, so ends always precede
workflow/end. A real settlement racing the force-settle loses to the
synthesized cancellation - the same first-wins override onResult applies
to the run's own result.

packages/workflow/workflow-workerthread/README.md

@@ -32,7 +32,7 @@ Values LEAVING the script (hook options/schemas, the script's return) are materi
 
 Per-run limits: a concurrency semaphore (`maxConcurrentAgents`), a total-`agent()` cap (`maxTotalAgents`), and a per-call item cap (`maxItemsPerCall`), all config. `cancel()` posts the cancel to the worker (its hooks start throwing `CANCELLED`; the script dies at its next await) and cancels every host-side child NOW on **both seam channels** — the shared request signal aborts AND each registered child's explicit `cancel()` is called host-side, because the seam leaves a provider free to honor either channel and a worker wedged in a synchronous spin could not relay its own per-child cancel RPCs (those later land as idempotent no-ops). The grace then arms: a run still unsettled `disposeGraceMs` later force-settles `cancelled` and the worker is **terminated**. A cancellation that lands before the body runs (the ready→go handshake) reports `cancelled` without executing anything; a worker `result` racing an in-flight host cancellation reports `cancelled` too (first-wins settlement — the seam-visible result had not settled when cancellation was requested); post-cancel `phase`/`log` narration is suppressed host-side, while cancelled children still deliver their paired `agent-end`.
 
-A worker that dies unexpectedly (an OOM, a script reaching `process.exit` through the documented vm escape) settles the run `stopReason: 'error'` with the exit diagnostics — or `'cancelled'` when a cancel was in flight — and the host-side child registry is what winds every surviving child down. `dispose()` = cancel + immediate host-driven disposal of every registered child (a wedged worker can relay no dispose RPC, so child teardown overlaps the grace instead of starting after it; the worker's own dispose RPCs join the same per-child disposal) + bounded wait (result, then child-registry quiescence, capped by the grace) + unconditional `worker.terminate()`: the thread never outlives its run. Once a run settles, stray children a script fired without awaiting are cancelled too, and `dispose()` waits for their disposal (bounded by the grace) before returning.
+A worker that dies unexpectedly (an OOM, a script reaching `process.exit` through the documented vm escape) settles the run `stopReason: 'error'` with the exit diagnostics — or `'cancelled'` when a cancel was in flight — and the host-side child registry is what winds every surviving child down. `dispose()` = cancel + immediate host-driven disposal of every registered child (a wedged worker can relay no dispose RPC, so child teardown overlaps the grace instead of starting after it; the worker's own dispose RPCs join the same per-child disposal) + bounded wait (result, then child-registry quiescence, capped by the grace) + unconditional `worker.terminate()`: the thread never outlives its run. Once a run settles, stray children a script fired without awaiting are cancelled too, and `dispose()` waits for their disposal (bounded by the grace) before returning. `agent-start`/`agent-end` pairing is host-guaranteed the same way: forwarded starts live in a ledger, worker-reported ends pair them on the graceful paths, and the termination paths (grace force-settle, worker death) synthesize the missing ends (outcome `cancelled`) before the run settles — a start still in flight across the force-settle can surface after `workflow/end`, immediately paired the same way.
 
 **Engine-specific limitations**: worker startup is paid per run; on a termination path `agentsStarted` reports the HOST-observed count (accepted `child-start`s — calls still queued worker-side for a concurrency slot are unknowable then); and a returned promise or thenable resolves per JavaScript semantics BEFORE materialization — that is what makes an un-awaited `return agent('x')` work — with the value-boundary guard applying to the resolution.